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Robin Reardon's avatar

First, it hit me hard when I read โ€œAnd it is coming out, over and over againโ€ฆ.โ€ I hear you. As a het/cis ally, I need to see this kind of truth from time to time; itโ€™s not something I have to deal with, and you deal with it all the time.

I chuckled at some of your suggests for how to answer the question โ€œboy or girl?โ€ Iโ€™d be tempted to say, โ€œWow. Interesting question. Why do you ask?โ€

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Keith Aron's avatar

I appreciate the creative thought you put into trouble-shooting this sticky wicket. I wonder when the day will come that we've decolonized gender to a good enough extent so that people no longer feel threatened by ambiguity and this is no longer an issue. Sadly, that day still seems quite a ways off, so the reality we're working with does seem to call for us to find the sweet spot -- or maybe the least sour spot -- between safety and respect. Thanks for trying to help locate that spot.

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