Right? I made a tiktok not too long ago about the intergenerational queer/trans "war" which is mostly just minor disagreements. But I asked my fellow gen xer's if we're called gen z queers/transfolks entitled, is that really it? Or do they just not hate themselves as much as we did in our 20s?
Right? I made a tiktok not too long ago about the intergenerational queer/trans "war" which is mostly just minor disagreements. But I asked my fellow gen xer's if we're called gen z queers/transfolks entitled, is that really it? Or do they just not hate themselves as much as we did in our 20s?
A large part of our experience has been what we witnessed. There are at least a dozen movies from my 20's that are hard to believe were ever made. I avoided all of them (see Disclosure - trigger warning - on Netflix). Better just to not go too far down that road. It all makes sense looking back. I try not to be too hard on myself.
For all the conflict right now, it feels like there is a direction and progress, though it is way too slow.
Getting back to age and gender. One of the more unexpected aspects of being visibly non-binary is that I went from being invisible as a 55 yo person presenting as male to being very visible. "Is that a 60 yo non-binary, trans feminine person?" The attention is something I'm still getting used to. I'm learning to enjoy the good because it tends to be really good ("this person is a kindred spirit and their presence brings us joy"). I'm a bit amused by the "I don't really know what to do with them" attention. I try to respond to that with warmth. The remainder doesn't come from anyone with an opinion I value.
It's getting easier to just go out and maybe be surprised when I notice someone noticing.
Right? I made a tiktok not too long ago about the intergenerational queer/trans "war" which is mostly just minor disagreements. But I asked my fellow gen xer's if we're called gen z queers/transfolks entitled, is that really it? Or do they just not hate themselves as much as we did in our 20s?
A large part of our experience has been what we witnessed. There are at least a dozen movies from my 20's that are hard to believe were ever made. I avoided all of them (see Disclosure - trigger warning - on Netflix). Better just to not go too far down that road. It all makes sense looking back. I try not to be too hard on myself.
For all the conflict right now, it feels like there is a direction and progress, though it is way too slow.
Getting back to age and gender. One of the more unexpected aspects of being visibly non-binary is that I went from being invisible as a 55 yo person presenting as male to being very visible. "Is that a 60 yo non-binary, trans feminine person?" The attention is something I'm still getting used to. I'm learning to enjoy the good because it tends to be really good ("this person is a kindred spirit and their presence brings us joy"). I'm a bit amused by the "I don't really know what to do with them" attention. I try to respond to that with warmth. The remainder doesn't come from anyone with an opinion I value.
It's getting easier to just go out and maybe be surprised when I notice someone noticing.