People-pleasing can keep us safer, but is not the only way to defend ourselves. When we are in stressful or dangerous situations, our animal brain takes over with an instinctual response instead of logically evaluating the situation.
Reyyy!!! I have SO MUCH to say about this. I am actually working on something about my own fawning right now. But I love what you have written here. As always, I love your gentle way of looking at things. Your acceptance and growth. It is such a special and safe space. <3
This is really interesting. I hope that someone who knows more about this can answer a question it's brought up for me: My understanding of fight/flight/freeze responses is that they are an automatic reaction when our sympathetic nervous system engages due to stressors/trauma. We don't have control over which response we use; we all have slightly differing nervous systems, and we can't consciously control our reactions once the sympathetic system is in control. Is that correct? If not, can someone clarify/correct my statement? If it is correct, how is it that we can be trained to fawn instead of fight/fly/freeze? I'm missing something...
Reyyy!!! I have SO MUCH to say about this. I am actually working on something about my own fawning right now. But I love what you have written here. As always, I love your gentle way of looking at things. Your acceptance and growth. It is such a special and safe space. <3
This is really interesting. I hope that someone who knows more about this can answer a question it's brought up for me: My understanding of fight/flight/freeze responses is that they are an automatic reaction when our sympathetic nervous system engages due to stressors/trauma. We don't have control over which response we use; we all have slightly differing nervous systems, and we can't consciously control our reactions once the sympathetic system is in control. Is that correct? If not, can someone clarify/correct my statement? If it is correct, how is it that we can be trained to fawn instead of fight/fly/freeze? I'm missing something...